Being authentic to your self and really listening to what your mind / body really want or are trying to tell you is a sure fire way to continue on the right path for you
Ooooh you are singing my song! Having grown up in many different version of unhelpful Christianity and an abusive home life, freedom and liberation are my favorite topics. I've been in power over/power under dynamics my whole life (until recently) and yet my soul has always rebelled and led me out of them. One system at a time. I deeply feel it's time for us all to liberate ourselves... from the systems we see and from the ones we take for granted because they've become so much a part of our world. Thank you for this message!
Kyra, I feel this so much. That deep, soul-level rebellion against power-over/power-under dynamics is something I know well. It’s WILD how ingrained these systems are, not just externally but in the way we’ve been conditioned to see ourselves. And yet, here we are—unlearning, unraveling, and reclaiming what’s ours.
I love what you said about liberating ourselves from the systems we take for granted. And what was a complete 🤯 for me was realizing that *I* am the o lot one that can “save” or liberate myself. It’s doesn’t come from an external person or system like religions taught us to believe.
Some of the most insidious ones aren’t the obvious institutions, but the silent expectations we never thought to question.
Yes we ARE on our way! There's no going back now and that's why they're freaking out the way they are. They realize they've lost control. The Divine Feminine is rising and there's no stopping her.
I know I have. I have been a runner all my life, and still I continuously find myself in the powerless position either in the marriage, homestead or attempting to do things on my own whether that be homeless on the streets, or accepting assistance and living with in the parameters of the state support services (honestly do not understand why they claim human in their name...can barely feed my two cats let alone a gown human).
But if I were to make a difference, and shift any particular system it would be the sentencing guidelines for pedophiles in the American justice system. I know not only personally, but generationally first hand, the system allows too many to walk the streets to prey upon our most precious humans and steal their innocents. This would be a change directly connected/affecting Protection serves departments as well. The only protection they provide is not for the child, nor the families,(in my opinion) but for the interest rate and who has the highest bid.... after the funds are dispersed to the local agency. Gratefully I am no longer be directly involved with either system any longer, but I am starting to feel as if no matter how I change, where I go, or who I have (or don't have) next to me, the damage that I have endured due to these two system failures keeps getting worse or I am just the product of a bs societal system that has corroded beyond control. Appearing crazy to the outside world with out cause, if they only knew the reality of this world. I could not ever wish the truth upon one sleeping in dream lands but the ones that benefit and choose to remain ignorant well ignore my madness as well I suppose....
Anna, I hear you. The systems that are supposed to protect the most vulnerable often do the opposite, and the damage that they leave behind is something too many of us know firsthand. My ex-husband is serving two life sentences for what he did to my daughters, and even knowing he’s behind bars doesn’t erase the harm that was done—or the rage I feel toward a system that allows so many to slip through the cracks. I'm always worried that some law will change and he'll be released.
You’re not crazy for seeing the truth, and you’re definitely not alone in the frustration of feeling like no matter how much you heal, the weight of what you’ve survived still lingers. Some things don’t just go away because we will them to.
But I also know that survival itself is a rebellion against the systems that tried to break us. Refusing to be silenced, to disappear, to let the weight of it define us—that’s resistance. I see your strength in this, even if you don’t. Sending you so much love. 💜
As a survivor of TWO abusive traditional marriages, I can say that YES the mental gymnastics is real. If I "rebelled", it literally meant my physical safety. But there's only so much one can take.
Yeah, it's a tough spot to be in. Abusers are SO good at making you think that it's worse on the "outside" but once you get there you realize. I was an expert at making sure no one knew what was going on. Your friend is very lucky to have you supporting them. I know you don't support their choice to stay, it's just so hard all around.💔
Being authentic to your self and really listening to what your mind / body really want or are trying to tell you is a sure fire way to continue on the right path for you
Exactly!! When I really tap into my heart and body and follow that, life is SO much easier!
"What’s one thing I can do differently?" Always focus on just one thing - SIMPLE shifts are what create LASTING change!
YESSS!! It’s doesn’t always have to be complicated!
Ooooh you are singing my song! Having grown up in many different version of unhelpful Christianity and an abusive home life, freedom and liberation are my favorite topics. I've been in power over/power under dynamics my whole life (until recently) and yet my soul has always rebelled and led me out of them. One system at a time. I deeply feel it's time for us all to liberate ourselves... from the systems we see and from the ones we take for granted because they've become so much a part of our world. Thank you for this message!
Kyra, I feel this so much. That deep, soul-level rebellion against power-over/power-under dynamics is something I know well. It’s WILD how ingrained these systems are, not just externally but in the way we’ve been conditioned to see ourselves. And yet, here we are—unlearning, unraveling, and reclaiming what’s ours.
I love what you said about liberating ourselves from the systems we take for granted. And what was a complete 🤯 for me was realizing that *I* am the o lot one that can “save” or liberate myself. It’s doesn’t come from an external person or system like religions taught us to believe.
Some of the most insidious ones aren’t the obvious institutions, but the silent expectations we never thought to question.
So grateful you’re here and resonating with this!
So grateful to be here! And YES to liberating ourselves! We are so powerful and we've been taught just the opposite, but we're on our way now! 🐍✨️
Yes we ARE on our way! There's no going back now and that's why they're freaking out the way they are. They realize they've lost control. The Divine Feminine is rising and there's no stopping her.
Yes.
I know I have. I have been a runner all my life, and still I continuously find myself in the powerless position either in the marriage, homestead or attempting to do things on my own whether that be homeless on the streets, or accepting assistance and living with in the parameters of the state support services (honestly do not understand why they claim human in their name...can barely feed my two cats let alone a gown human).
But if I were to make a difference, and shift any particular system it would be the sentencing guidelines for pedophiles in the American justice system. I know not only personally, but generationally first hand, the system allows too many to walk the streets to prey upon our most precious humans and steal their innocents. This would be a change directly connected/affecting Protection serves departments as well. The only protection they provide is not for the child, nor the families,(in my opinion) but for the interest rate and who has the highest bid.... after the funds are dispersed to the local agency. Gratefully I am no longer be directly involved with either system any longer, but I am starting to feel as if no matter how I change, where I go, or who I have (or don't have) next to me, the damage that I have endured due to these two system failures keeps getting worse or I am just the product of a bs societal system that has corroded beyond control. Appearing crazy to the outside world with out cause, if they only knew the reality of this world. I could not ever wish the truth upon one sleeping in dream lands but the ones that benefit and choose to remain ignorant well ignore my madness as well I suppose....
Anna, I hear you. The systems that are supposed to protect the most vulnerable often do the opposite, and the damage that they leave behind is something too many of us know firsthand. My ex-husband is serving two life sentences for what he did to my daughters, and even knowing he’s behind bars doesn’t erase the harm that was done—or the rage I feel toward a system that allows so many to slip through the cracks. I'm always worried that some law will change and he'll be released.
You’re not crazy for seeing the truth, and you’re definitely not alone in the frustration of feeling like no matter how much you heal, the weight of what you’ve survived still lingers. Some things don’t just go away because we will them to.
But I also know that survival itself is a rebellion against the systems that tried to break us. Refusing to be silenced, to disappear, to let the weight of it define us—that’s resistance. I see your strength in this, even if you don’t. Sending you so much love. 💜
As a survivor of TWO abusive traditional marriages, I can say that YES the mental gymnastics is real. If I "rebelled", it literally meant my physical safety. But there's only so much one can take.
Yeah, it's a tough spot to be in. Abusers are SO good at making you think that it's worse on the "outside" but once you get there you realize. I was an expert at making sure no one knew what was going on. Your friend is very lucky to have you supporting them. I know you don't support their choice to stay, it's just so hard all around.💔